I had one of the best dates with Marion yesterday. It was nothing special, nothing grand; we just sat at Starbucks and talked for hours without end. What was special to us about yesterday was that we tried to find the Starbucks we went to on our very first date on Valentines Day in 2009. Yesterday was more about reliving that moment of our first date.
In 2009, Marion and I were talking a lot on MSN. At that time, MSN was the thing. Our conversations seemed to flow quite naturally to my surprise because Marion was a little bit of an asshole back then. He had a smug face and this “know-it-all” impression. When I facilitated his group during the confirmation camp, he was pretty standoffish and found me annoying for my preppiness. 🙄 Post-confirmation camp, we started talking quite a bit on MSN cause I would usually catch up with those under my leadership to try and get them to be involved in our yourh group and such. But of course, at that time, I wouldn’t have known what Marion would be in my life. When we started talking a lot, I realised I enjoyed his company a lot. Our conversations were always so mentally stimulating and eventually I found myself always smiling like a fool at the screen and laughing out loud to myself. I found myself waiting eagerly for him to come online cause I was so hooked on the conversation and then I realised, I was crushing on this guy. The guy who was an annoying brat to me at confirmation camp, the guy who didn’t really want to socialise much and thought he was super cool, the guy who is younger than me who I said I would never date for superficial reasons. Soon our conversations moved to text messaging and then we started talking on the phone a lot.
So that backstory behind this Valentine’s Day date was that both of us were single and I joked about how it’s Single Awareness Day and Marion said “let’s celebrate Single Awareness Day together”. Who were we kidding? Hahahaha up till this day Chels makes fun of us. People knew we had a thing for each other cause we were hanging out a lot but I guess we weren’t quite ready to commit to that yet.
On Valentines days, I was 1 hour late for our “non-date” because I was stressing over what to wear and I wanted to look good. I think Marion must have been annoyed with me for being that late (oops). We went on our non-date without any plan to be honest. We just went to town and roamed around. While roaming around, we stopped by one of the Starbucks outlets in Somerset area and that was the place we were trying to find yesterday. I think the Starbucks has been demolished or turned into something else because we couldn’t find it. Well, a lot can happen in 8 years. But anyway, on our Single Awareness Day non-date, I was shy to eat in front of Marion because I am weird like that. I was conscious of how I would look I guess. So Marion ended up ordering two drinks and one double chocolate muffin for us to share. It would have been perfect if we went to the exact same Starbucks yesterday and ordered our double chocolate muffin to share. But anyway, after we had Starbucks on that very day, we went walking around Plaza Singapura where they were giving out free hugs and they asked us if we wanted free hugs, to which Marion replied “I already have” and then he gave me a hug which made everyone go “awwww”. This boy was high key flirting with me and I obviously enjoyed that.
After roaming around and doing practically nothing in town, we decided to head back to GV Yishun to catch a movie. While heading back via MRT train, Marion reached out his hand to signal for me to put my hand in his. See, what did I tell you, high key flirting with me – that boy. I gave him my hand and that was they first time we held hands. There weren’t any nice movies at that time but we just wanted to spend time with each other so we settled for a rather long and dry movie starring Renee Zellweger called ‘New in Town’. The movie was so boring and I don’t know how we even paid attention to it. I can’t remember if we admitted to how boring the movie was on that day but I know we laugh about it now. After the movie, we went to Yishun Hill to play by the swings. It was pretty late at that time so we just sat and talked. Even though Marion flirted with me a lot, he was also pretty awkward himself. He used to playfully tease me because he liked me which is so primary school mentality. It annoyed me and I would have told him off for it but had to maintain my lady like behaviour cause it my first actual date (I meant non-date). I have dated other guys before but I never went on actual dates with any of them so Marion was technically my first. I had no idea what to expect so I put on my best behaviour.
After the non-date, Marion sent me home and I think we silently knew we had a thing for each other but we weren’t ready to be in a relationship yet I guess. Immediately after he sent me home, I started scribbling in my diary cause I couldn’t contain the excitement and according to Marion, he skipped back to the bus stop and had the pump-your-fist in the air feeling.
Our first date wasn’t anything extraordinary or grand – hack, we didn’t even plan anything for it. We just knew we wanted to be in each other’s company and I guess that’s what made it special for us. It was the time spent together and the realisation that we were falling in love with each other.
Yesterday, we talked about so many things and one of them was about the events in our first date. There were a lot of face-palms because we were embarrassed for our past selves but there were also a lot of smiles and gazing into each other’s eyes. For me, I just cannot believe it’s been 8 years and how so much has changed. I cannot believe how far we’ve both come as individuals and as a team. We don’t love each other childishly like we used to and I thank God for that. Every struggle we’ve ever faced has led us to mature in this relationship and our roots are deep in the soil of friendship. The love will always be there because I have always chosen him – always him over any struggle we’ve faced. Besides, we work better as a team. Yesterday was nice, it was simple and serene. The waters may be calm now but tides will come and currents will be strong, and we will be ready because at the end of the day, we’re stronger together.
“Find the one and let them burn you, let them burn you like the sun, let your love and hate fuel the fire, and the more vulnerable you become, the hotter you will burn, until you are nothing but molten ash. And that fire cools, your love will be a hard, cool steel, and nothing will break you. For together you have been the sun.”
This is the epitome of our relationship.